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WE HAVE heard a lot about violence against women and children and rape.
The stories have been even more serious in the past two years where we heard from the news about men who raped infants and pensioners without fear or shame.
We have listened to the analysts and columnists on television and print media giving us statistics and analysing this beastly behaviour.
All I could think of is that some men have lost their sense of purpose and definitely lost their "human-ness” completely.
I say this because, if you have lost the sense of being a man (a protector, a lover and a visionary) in your own home, you have completely lost your sense of humanity!
What are you ever going to be if you are not what you should be – A MAN?
You will definitely degenerate into a monster and a beast that only seeks wickedness.
Beyond violence against women, child abuse and rape, there is eventually one reason why we need men to be men – to start families.
If young men would take their strength, their vigour and sense of challenge and direct it to raising good children in proper family units, half of the problems caused by loitering young men would just vanish. Young men need a lot of support from their fathers as they grow up.
The ancient text of Israel says: "As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth”.
If you can picture an arrow on the ground, it is not a threat to anyone. But if you can get a "mighty man” to put the arrow in a bow and stretch his hands out as if he would release the arrow, you will then see the potential of the same object that was on the ground without direction.
This is what happens with young men who do not have fathers or any designated adult in their lives – they are just left on the ground with potential that might never be properly used.
The Bible text mentioned then tells us "children of the youth” are like these arrows in the hand of a mighty man.
There is nothing wrong with having children in your youth, but there is everything wrong with having children outside a proper family structure – marriage.
Young fathers are required to raise healthy children in healthy families.
What we need to talk about now is, how can the young men in our society start proper families to raise children.
We, as young men, need more help to do the good that we are required to perform in the society and less criticism of what we cannot or are not doing. If you are saying young men should not abuse women or children, what should they be doing?
Teach us. If we are not supposed to be loitering around in the township, what should we do? If we are not what we are supposed to be, what how do we become what we should be?
As we are approaching 16 Days of Activism Against Woman and Child Abuse, we must keep at the back of our minds that this is not only a woman’s issue, it is a man’s issue.
Olwam Mnqwaz, InkuluFreeHeid